Parenting Styles

Helping friends and family hold baby correctly

If somebody hasn't spent much time around newborns, it isn't always easy to figure out the best way to hold them, and you're bound to have friends and family for whom this is the case. That's where you come in.

The new parent's cheat sheet

Right now, you've got a lot running through your head, so don't worry about remembering everything that comes your way. Just keep some basic baby facts in mind to make the upcoming weeks, months, and years run a little more smoothly.

What to look for in a child care center

One day, your baby will be able to decide for herself what college or workplace she wants to go to. But until then, it's up to you to decide where she spends the majority of her day. In the long run, daycare isn't the most important of these locations, but it's good to keep a few factors in mind when deciding on which daycare is best for your baby.

How often do I need to clean baby products?

your baby is pretty easily to throw into the tub when she gets messy, but what about the gear that comes with her?

Can a single parent ever really have a moment alone?

Close supervision is one of the big parts of the parent of a newborn's job, but for single parents it's a part of the job that can start to get in the way of the other parts.

Is it possible to spoil a newborn?

Nobody wants a spoiled child, so many parents take care to make sure that this doesn't happen. But is it really possible for somebody born less than four weeks ago to be spoiled?

Talking to older children about a younger sibling's adoption

Older siblings have a huge impact on the way children grow up, and this is just as true for families that are formed, or partially formed, through adoption.

How much should I let my baby cry?

Among the dozens of topics that are sure to set off a debate, how much to let a baby cry is right at the top of the list. Different things work for different babies, and different parents, but there are definitely some things to consider when coming up with your strategy for letting your baby cry.

How do I find a babysitter?

Obviously, you're your own first choice for a babysitter. But until cloning yourself is an option, you're going to need to find another way to enjoy a night out. Fortunately there are a couple ways you can go about finding someone to watch your baby on your nights off.

Do children of same-sex parents need role models of another sex?

"Role model" is the kind of phrase that can feel intimidating, but the question of what role models your baby is going to need in her life doesn't need to be a hard one.

Telling your twins apart

It can be tough to tell identical twins apart before they're able to say their names. So what's a parent to do?

Helping your partner feel closer to baby

Let's face it: by the time you've checked into the maternity ward, you and your baby have already logged some considerable hours together. Your partner may have been right by your side through every step of pregnancy, but when your baby finally arrives, kicking and squealing, it's common for the parent who didn't carry her to feel slightly adrift and unsure of how to connect more closely with their new children.

Should I give my baby a pacifier?

It varies from baby to baby, but the pacifier could very well be your baby's first true love. Unfortunately, like Romeo and Juliet, the two will eventually have to part. In the meantime, learn why their attraction is so strong.

Navigating expectations about parenting roles as LGBTQ parents

To a certain degree, this is something every family deals with - "What sort of ideas about family that I grew up with will I keep as I build this new family? What will I do differently?"

Grocery shopping with your baby

Grocery shopping is definitely not everyone's favorite activity, and with a baby in the picture, it can actually get pretty intimidating. Luckily, there are tricks that can help new parents take some of the stress out of grocery trips.

Should I put baby on a schedule?

This depends on many things, but putting your baby on a schedule is definitely something to consider depending on your situation.

Building your support system as a single parent

No parent is an island - but when you're single-parenting, it can be easy to start to feel like one.

When should I start disciplining my child?

Right now, all you can do is hold your breath and count to ten when your baby makes a mess that feels more on-purpose than most messes. You can use this timeline to determine when and how you teach your baby what is and isn't acceptable when she gets a little older.

5 problems parents of multiples face, and their solutions

Every new parent faces a certain set of challenges, but parents of twins and higher order multiples might be all-too-familiar with the same set of issues.

4 secrets of parenthood the books don't tell you

Parenting books are helpful, but much like a first coat of paint, they may not cover everything. So what else do you need to know?

Parenting while sick

Everybody gets sick - even parents. But parenting isn't like your job - you can't just call out sick. So how are you supposed to handle your parenting duties when you're feeling under the weather?

When do you stop describing baby in weeks or months?

It can be difficult to figure out how to refer to your baby's age, especially because there are no hard and fast rules. So how do you handle it?

5 organizational tips for life with a baby

Whether or not you're the organizing type, following these tips will smooth out your schedule and add a little more structure to your day with your baby.

How do parenting styles differ throughout the world?

Looking at certain things from a wider angle helps us get a bit of perspective, which is why it's important to sometimes take a step back and consider the grand scheme of things. Parenting styles vary widely, from town to town, state to state, continent to continent. Check out some of the different ways people around the globe bring up baby.

5 scrapbook-worthy new-parenting milestones

You probably know all about your baby's past and upcoming milestones, but did you ever think about your own?

Communicating your rules to other caretakers

Everybody has their own set of beliefs and rules that dictate how they raise their children, so how do you communicate these rules to other caretakers who might be watching your little one?

Parenting trends: "sharenting"

Ever heard the phrase TMI (too much information)? It's used when you "overshare" by saying something too personal, too intimate, or maybe too gross in public. "Sharenting" is a lot like that, but for parents on social media.

5 bad parenting habits to avoid

Bad habits can start early, and be tough to break, so it's important to have some ideas of parenting techniques and behaviors that might be considered "bad habits", and decide which you want to make an effort to avoid.

Helping baby reach milestones

your baby is bound to go through life at her own pace. That's the beauty of the human experience! This said, there are ways you can be a supportive caregiver while empowering your baby to meet developmental milestones.

5 pieces of bad advice about parenting your 6-month old

Parenting advice is like a love ballad from the 80s. Some you want to remember, but others you try your hardest to forget. For all the great advice you get, there are bound to be some stinkers in the bunch.

What is slow parenting?

Some aspects of your parenting style are harder to change than others. One thing that you can try and alter is the pace of your parenting, in an effort to do less and focus more on enjoying the moment. This more laid-back approach to parenting is called 'slow parenting,' and some parents swear by it.

What's the cry-it-out method?

Does the term "cry it out method" remind you of your cranky grandpa who believed scrapes and bruises helped build character? Well, it's not that! It's a technique for teaching your baby to fall asleep on her own. Learn more about the method so you can decide if it's right for your family.

Amended birth certificates and your adopted child

For adopted children in the U.S., paperwork has the possibility of getting tricky.

What is attachment parenting?

Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that you may or may not choose to use, from time to time. Some parents swear by it; others could live without it. If you've never heard about it, it's worth checking out!

What makes somebody a "good" parent?

You know when you come home at the end of a long day, look in the mirror, and realize there's something in your teeth? Some new parents find themselves feeling this way about their parenting skills, too. Are they doing a good job, or making some glaringly obvious mistake? If this thought is causing you concern, then we have some good news for you.

Should I stop baby from thumb-sucking?

Thumb-sucking: cutest thing ever, or a habit that needs to be broken soon? It's totally natural yet many parents have mixed feelings about it. No matter where you stand, it can't hurt to learn more.

5 common fears every parent shares

Remember when you were a kid, and you ran up the stairs at night to escape the monster that was maybe-probably-definitely behind you? You may have thought you were the only one who did that, but it turns out that's a common experience. Sometimes it's nice to know you're not alone in your fears, especially when it comes to monsters. And parenting. Turns out there are a lot of common fears among parents, too.

8 things we can learn from our babies

Keep your eyes peeled - now that your baby's here, you've got some lessons coming your way!

3 things you won't realize until your baby is older

Hindsight is 20/20. Here's your own sneak-peek into the future.

6 reasons why you're a great parent

Here's a list you might not regularly make, but it's as important as your daily to-do list. Taking some time out of your day to think about the positive effects that parenting is having on you will help you appreciate parenting - and yourself! - in real-time. And there's no time like the present, right?

5 ways your children will have totally different childhoods than you did

your baby won't have to walk to school uphill both ways, in the rain and snow. How else will her childhood differ from yours?

Blast from the past: parenting tips from the 1930s

Some things have changed since the 1930s. Some things haven't. In the same sense, some parenting advice has stayed and some has gone right in the trash. You might be surprised to see what parenting advice was circulating in the '30s.

Alternate uses for discarded baby names

Recycling is in, right? Instead of throwing out the baby names you didn't end up using, consider enlisting them for a new and exciting second life in one of these ways.

The coke vs. pepsi of new parenthood: know your 'mommy wars' topics

Sure, you may not want to get involved in the latest parenting debate, but it's still a good idea to know what the main subjects in it are - if only so you can avoid them if you want.

How is raising an adopted baby or child different?

There are a million things about raising a baby you've adopted that are exactly the same as raising a baby who's biologically related to you, but there are a few key ways that it's different, too.

How do I know if my baby likes me?

"Does my baby like me? I mean, really like me?" It's one of the many questions you may be able to ask, but your little one is still a little ways away from being able to answer, just like "Why did you put that rock in your mouth?" or "Did your socks do something to offend you?"

What if my baby doesn't like the things I do?

your baby may have your eyes, or your partner's earlobes - or she may not. Either way, though, your little one is bound to have some ideas about the world that are all her own.

What should I have my baby call me?

Some parents have known they were going to be "mama" or "dad" to their future offspring since they were kids themselves, but for other families, the answers aren't quite so clear-cut.

Extended family networks and only parents

It doesn't always take a village - but sometimes, having a village on-call can help

MYOB: 6 responses to people who interfere with your parenting

"It takes a village to raise a child" can be a dangerous sentence when everyone seems to think they should be a part of your village. Anyone from your great aunt to the cashier at the grocery store may think they're telling you what's best for your baby, but that doesn't mean you have to listen.

Raising kind kids

When babies are first learning about the world, they may stumble into some actions that don't seem so nice, from pulling the dog's tail to laughing when someone falls down. This is all part of how she learns about the world, but it also leaves some parents wondering about how they can foster kindness in their kids as they grow.

Playground manners for baby and you

your baby isn't the only one who has to play nicely with the other kids at the playground. You may not have thought much about playground manners since you were your baby's age, so here's a refresher course to flip through before bringing your baby over to the sandbox.

What is free-range parenting?

It's a bird, it's a plane, it's a parenting style? Like most parenting philosophies, there are some parents who take it to extremes, but for most free-range parents it's just about giving children the space to grow independent.

Helping to curb "bad" toddler habits

Maybe you can't see your baby's future, but that doesn't mean you're not having an effect on it. Knock a few things off her future list of New Year's resolutions by breaking a few habits before they even start.

Things to consider when taking pictures of your children

Being mindful about what you can do to make your photos safe and purposeful will help make your picture-taking even more meaningful than it is.

6 parenting truths you might have learned in the first year

You've watched your baby grow bigger every day, but you've been growing, too, and the changes in the way you think may not be quite as obvious as it is that your little one is about three times as big as she was at birth. Here are a few ways you may have changed, whether you noticed it or not.

4 pieces of bad advice for parenting your 1-year old

Bad parenting advice doesn't end with babyhood, but it does grow harder to weed out as your baby grows bigger, and the situations she finds herself in grow more complicated.

When will this feel normal?

So, let's face it: you have several more children than you did this time a year ago.

5 tips to survive the toddler years

It's amazing how fast toddlers go from taking their first steps to running head-first into trouble. As your little one turns from bouncing baby to turbulent tot, here are a few tips to help you through the transition.

4 subtle ways to raise an inclusive child

"I've found knowing I'm doing all I can to slow the progress of hate calms me. I believe parents have a personal responsibility to do all we can to raise children who will make the world a better place."

Being a good role model through the toddler years

To your baby, you are the blueprint for humankind. Really! You're the sun, the moon, the stars, the earth, and one of the only adults she is well acquainted with. That means you're also her number one role model, which is as cool of a responsibility as it sounds.

Making time for your own interests with a mobile child

Babies and toddlers have a way of taking over your entire day, but it's still important to try to make a little time for your own interests.

Thinking carefully about social media sharing

Childhood has never been more digital. You can whip out a camera as fast as you can say "smartphone" and capture hundreds of pictures of your baby's first word, step...bath? When you're considering sharing your baby's picture or information on social media, there are sometimes potential long-term consequences to consider.

Dealing with other people parenting your kids

Sure, you and your baby may have the occasional ups and downs in your relationship, but that doesn't mean there's anyone else in the world who's better qualified to throw their hat in the "parenting your baby" ring.

Hiring a babysitter for the first time

No one can take care of your baby like you can, but on days when you need a helping hand, picking the right babysitter is an important skill to have.

Ways to keep your cool with a toddler

your baby's tantrums can be enough to make you want to throw one of your own. Here are a few thoughts to keep you leading by example when your little one's temper starts to boil over.

Apologizing to your toddler

Everyone messes up, and when they do there are two big words they need to say. Having to say them to someone who looks up to you makes it even harder to do, but it's also even more important.

5 steps to grocery greatness with a tot

So the days of the super-fast in-and-out at the grocery store may be behind you, at least on days when you have your littlest helper with you, but there's no reason you can't streamline your grocery shopping process a little!

Clingy behaviors in toddlers

There's nothing sweeter than cuddliness from a toddler, but when that cuddliness starts to turn into clinginess it can start to cause some concern.

When should I stop using the stroller?

A stroller can turn into a home-on-wheels for toddlers and their parents who spend a lot of time on the go, but eventually, it's time for even the most committed stroller-riders to move on.

Permissive relatives and the holidays

Tis the season... to wonder if your relatives will have a bad influence on all the hard work you've been doing raising your baby. Here are some ways to get through the holidays without losing your cheer.

Preparing your toddler for big changes

Change is the one thing that never changes, but when change disrupts a toddler's routine, she can have a hard time making the adjustment.

Talking to your toddler about the connection between meat and animals

It's no accident that most picture books about barnyards don't talk too much about what all of the animals are there for, and when it comes time to talk to your toddler about what her chicken nuggets used to look like, it can be helpful to have an idea how to approach the subject.

Stay-at-home parenting with a toddler

Staying at home with a toddler involves a lot more running around than staying at home with a baby did, but some things are constant.

Why praise shouldn't be demonized

If you've never given a second thought to the effects - both positive and negative - that praise might have on a growing child, now just might be the time.

Nakedness at home

It's not considered that out-of-the-ordinary for a toddler to fling off her entire outfit because the tag on her shirt was itchy. It's a little less expected when her parent does the same thing. But is there anything wrong with casual family nudity around toddlers?

A parent's guide to searching for a lost toy

The more beloved the toy, the harder it is to know when to give up the chase and stop looking for it.

Setting boundaries with your verbal toddler

your baby knows a lot more words these days, but when those words are used to make rules, she might still have some trouble with them.

Help! My child won't sit in the grocery cart

Going to the grocery store might not be that exciting to you, but to your baby, everything from the cart to the fellow-shoppers can be an adventure. Sometimes this can make grocery trips easier, but other times, the opposite might happen.

Tantrums, toddlers, and public places

What happened to the days of having your infant in public and having people "ooh" and "ahh" over her? Sure, she is still cute, but now that cuteness can come with the occasional tantrum, which can make outings trickier.

How involved is too involved?

Everybody wants to be there for their children, and those that they love, but it's important to consider how closely you want to manage a child's day-to-day and second-to-second life.

On the go: Tricks for getting your toddler out the door in a hurry

There's nobody more stubborn than a toddler in a mood, so sometimes when your schedule is about as inflexible as your baby's busy playing schedule, you may need a backup plan to get her out the door.

Pros and cons of a toddler harness

It would be nice to just use your minds to keep your toddler within arm's reach, but if you don't develop superhuman abilities any time soon, is a toddler harness the right answer?

Answering your toddler's uncomfortable questions

Whether "what's that?" is your toddler's favorite question, or she has picked up the classic "why?" there's a good chance that she is looking to you to be one of her main sources of information about the world, even when she is asking questions that adults don't generally consider to be polite.

Getting along with your toddler's friends' parents

You'd think the parents of the tot who's your baby's current BFF must be just as likable as their offspring, but unfortunately, that's not always the case.

Handling a swearing toddler

Oh shoot. Dang. Darn. your baby has picked up some new vocabulary and wouldn't it be great if she hadn't?

How to win an argument with your toddler

If there's anything more uncomfortable than arguing with a toddler, it's losing an argument to a toddler. So, how do you make sure you best your little one in debate?

Levels of supervision as your toddler gets older

As she grows, your toddler isn't always going to need as much supervision, but the supervision she does need is going to be different.

The beginning of time-out

When "no" just doesn't cut it, for some parents, the next tool in the toolbox is the time-out. If time-outs are actually going to work, though, there are a few guidelines to keep in mind.

When your toddler likes to run off

We've got a runner! Thinking of future Olympic gold medals and sports scholarships will only get you so far when you're managing a speedy toddler with a tendency to disappear. There are some strategies you can use to keep your baby from running, but what you might really want to know are the strategies for staying sane during this adrenaline-pumping stage of your life.

Dealing with a sprinter

It's a varsity runner! It's an Olympian! No, wait, it's your toddler, and the finish line is where the sidewalk ends!

Why your baby is hitting and what you can do about it

It's one of the big challenges of early parenting, figuring out the right way to respond when it's your little one who's lashing out on the playground.

When to teach your toddler about "stranger danger"

Teaching your little one about safety is an ongoing conversation. You can introduce nuggets of wisdom about safety to your baby as soon as she is old enough to understand words, but you're actually teaching her about safety even earlier.

Basic life rules to teach your two-year-old

There aren't any concrete 'rules' you have to follow as you go through life. But there's definitely some general wisdom that you can impart on your baby, starting now!

How putting my son in daycare has made me a better mom

There are a hundred factors that go into the decision of whether or not to put your little one in childcare - here's one mom's take on why her decision was the right one for her family.

How putting my son in daycare has made me a better mom

There are a hundred factors that go into the decision of whether or not to put your little one in childcare - here's one mom's take on why her decision was the right one for her family.

When should I stop bringing my child of the opposite sex into the bathroom with me?

The answer can be different depending on your situation.

Do time-outs work for two-year-olds?

No one loves pushing limits more than a two-year-old! Time-outs can be useful tools for limit-setting, but they're not right for every toddler.

Seeing the world through a toddler's eyes

If there are ever times where you wish your little one would just see the world through your eyes, there are bound to be instances when it might be helpful for you to try to see the world through hers.

3 tantrum-friendly locations

Toddlers and tantrums go together like peanut butter and jelly, but you have some control over the audience your tantruming tot gets.

Choosing an emergency contact for your toddler

With any luck, they'll never need to be called, but choosing your child's emergency contact in the event that you can't be reached is a difficult choice.

Setting limits in the third year

As your baby's vision of the world gets bigger, she will probably start to explore which boundaries she can get away with pushing with you.

Figuring out which rules to make and enforce with a toddler

your baby is a force of nature, but even nature has to follow the laws of physics, right?

Aggressive tantrums going into the third year

The terrible twos can feel like they've got nothing on terrible threes, but as tantrums continue into toddlerhood, there are ways to prevent and diffuse these aggressive tantrums.

Do I over-praise my toddler?

As the days pass, and your baby continues to dazzle you with everything she is learning, and you'll undoubtedly throw your share of "great jobs!" your baby's way.

Unplugging when you're hanging out with your toddler

There are plenty of ways that technology can be a great tool for parents - how else would you get all those pictures of your baby, after all? - but there's also a value in setting limits, not just on your baby's screen-use, but on your own.

Talking to other parents about your rules for your child

It may take a village to raise a child, but sometimes, it takes a few conversations to make sure the whole village is on the same page.

How long can my toddler ride in a sling or backpack?

Whether you're on a day-long hike or just a quick trip down to the corner store, there are plenty of ways for your family to stay on the go.

Toddlers and grown-up parties

It's definitely possible to attend an adult party with little kids - the key is to be just as mindful of your baby's needs as the host's.

Raising a confident child

Does your baby walk around your home like she is the ruler of all she surveys? Young children have great building blocks for strong self-confidence in their personalities, and with a little encouragement, they can grow into confident, assertive children and adults.

Saying no to your toddler when they really, really, really want something

Standing firm when you and your baby are on opposite sides of a battle of wills is tough, but it's only through saying no now and then that you can start to teach your baby about the importance of self-control and delayed gratification.

Why is my toddler so stubborn?

Whether it's an, "I want more," situation, or more of a "but WHY not?" one, toddlers certainly know how to be tenacious.

Rules at other people's houses

Toddlers are smart, but they still need guidance in order to become well-mannered guests - and for a while, your baby's manners as a houseguest are going to be a work in progress.

Modifying behavior without being mean

If your baby is the one who keeps doing things she shouldn't, why is it you who ends up feeling like a broken record? Discipline in the toddler years is tricky, but there are positive ways to make it work.

Helping your non-parent friends get to know your toddler

Once you have kids, it can be challenging to stay friends with other adults, especially if they don't have children. But if you're committed to keeping your friendships afloat while your baby is a toddler, an important part of this process is helping your friends get to know your baby.

Connecting an adopted child with an adoption mentor

There's plenty you can do to help your child process how she feels about her adoption, but in some situations, it's helpful for her to have someone who's been in the same situation to talk to.

Raising responsible children

your baby may be somewhat of a little wild thing now, but with your help, she may grow up to be the most responsible kid on the block!

7 ways to encourage kids to help clean up

Although at this point, it may be faster and easier to clean up messes yourself, investing the time to clean up alongside your child will pay off with a child who, with any luck, won't think twice about picking up after herself on her own as she grows.

Talking to your verbal toddler about safety

When your baby starts talking back when you talk to her, your keeping-her-safe plan will have to evolve with PRONOUN_HM_HER_LOWER.

Media guidelines for your about-to-be-three-year-old

It's a rare person whose eye isn't drawn to moving pictures on a screen, and an even rarer toddler, but how often should your tot be indulging?

Talking to your toddler about strangers

It's a great big world out there, and your baby is doing a great job of discovering some of the fun things about it on her own, but it's up to you to teach her how to avoid some of the scarier parts.

Enforcing screentime rules with toddlers

Everyone knows it's important to set limits for toddlers, but what's trickier sometimes is figuring out how to best enforce them.

Talking to kids about sensitive topics

There's a good chance that your baby is going to be ready to ask some of the big questions before you feel quite ready to answer them.

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