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Simple answers to complicated questions: why do bad things happen to good people?

Thinking & Learning   |   Age: 2 years 8 months


Simple answers to complicated questions: why do bad things happen to good people?
Why do bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people? The truth is, like most other difficult questions, there's really no clear answer. But when your baby asks you this question in some form or another, it is good for parents to give their child a valid response. You don't have to have it all figured out to answer your baby's question. While she is this young, your baby just needs a basic, straightforward response.

So, why do bad things happen to good people? Here's how to answer that question in a way that your toddler will understand.

The simple answer

Say to your baby, "Good and bad things happen to everyone. Can you think of some good and bad things that have happened to you? It was good to get your new toy, but it was bad when it got lost. We stay healthy and safe by wearing seatbelts, going to the doctor's office, and listening to [mommy or daddy]. I love you so much, and I will protect you and make sure you are safe."

Tips to keep in mind

Whether you use the response above or make up your own, try to remember these pointers when you talk to your baby about why things happen that don't make sense.

A final note

Whether it's today, tomorrow, next month, or next year, your toddler will inevitably ask a question that forces you to poke around in the darker corners of the universe. And when she does, it might be hard to deal. But know that it's better to start having these conversations sooner than later. Plus, it's always good parenting practice to encourage your baby to come to you with her questions.

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