The realities of multiples' dynamics

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The realities of multiples' dynamics

The experience of raising multiples isn’t really more complicated than raising a single child, but it can be misunderstood. First-time parents of multiples have lots of questions, and it’s rare that they have time to find the answers. Even if you haven’t found yourself totally confused in the face of the future for twinhood or triplethood, there are still some things that you should know about your babies’ future relationships.

The relationships your children will have with one another is one of the most awesome things about having multiples. But it’s also important that each baby is aware of his or her own identity, and that they each have a strong sense of self-reliance.

What are some common misconceptions about multiples’ dynamics?

People are fascinated by twins and multiples. And you can expect yours to get a lot of attention through childhood - and beyond! But this can also be problematic because lots of people have assumptions about multiples that aren't always correct. Here are some examples of the things that people might think.

What’s the caregiver’s role?

Multiples can have very close bonds. This can make it easy to assume that some of the common myths about multiples are true. But it’s really important for parents to encourage their children to develop separate interests and friends, instead of reinforcing the beliefs above.

Here are some things to take into consideration when you decide how to interact with your multiples, and how to guide them in interacting with each other.

The best things about multiples’ dynamics

None of this information should scare you about parenting your multiples. Your babies will share a connection that is unrivaled in any other part of their lives. They will share countless moments of laughter, amusement, and understanding, as well as incredible fun with and enjoyment of each other. They will be important parts of each other’s lives, and their relationship with each other will help define the rest of the relationships they form over the course of their lives. So really, it’s impossible to list all the good things about your multiples’ future dynamics.

There are many widespread beliefs about multiples that actually aren’t true. And it turns out many people don’t quite have an accurate picture of what their dynamics are really like. But don’t worry - regardless of all the confusion out there, if there’s one thing you can be sure of, it’s that you’ll do an amazing job raising them.  

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