Remember when your baby’s idea of a good time was throwing things on the floor, watching them fall, and then waiting for you to pick them up again? Even if she never quite managed to totally grow out of that stage, when she first started out, it was because she was doing some of her first cause-and-effect experiments. While those first few experiments may have given her some valuable information about how gravity works here on planet earth, not every assumption she has made about cause and effect since then has necessarily given her a very clear picture of the world.
People of all ages have a tendency towards what’s called “magical thinking” now and then. Magical thinking happens when your mind draws a connection about cause and effect that isn’t grounded in reality, and it’s why people end up with superstitions like good luck charms, or pre-game rituals. More than horseshoe-collectors and professional athletes, though, toddlers are some of the most magical thinkers around. This is because they’re not starting out with a lot of information about the world, and without that basis of what logical cause and effect look like, anything can seem possible.
Everything about your baby is magical - why should her thinking be any different? In toddlers, though, magical thinking may be less likely to show up as superstition, and more often as fears that can seem illogical to adults. These fears can range from childhood classics like the dark, or the monster under the bed, to less well-known fears like fear of being pulled down the drain in the bathtub, or fear of the toilet.
These fears can come up because of associations with scary events - nightmares that happen in the dark, or a loud crashing noise - or because of your toddler’s growing imagination. She may not have the spatial awareness to know that she can’t fit down the drain in the bathtub, but she sure can imagine that what’s down there wouldn’t be much fun.
Magical thinking in toddlers can also appear as a tendency to assign human traits to inanimate objects, like a car that’s sad, or a sleepy teddy bear, and as made up explanations for how things happen as they try to make sense of the world.
Magical thinking generally starts to disappear gradually around kindergarten - it can begin to fade out as early as 4 or as late as 6. If your little one has a fear or strange habit based on magical thinking, though, that doesn’t mean it will stick around until her first day of school. She’s still a toddler, and could easily forget or move on from any individual habit caused by magical thinking sooner than that.
Fears based in magical thinking don’t always respond well to logic, though. If your child is afraid of the potty, telling her there’s nothing to be afraid of might not help - and telling her a story about how the creature she’s afraid of has been defeated might.