Helping your toddler practice conversational skills
your baby knows a lot more words than she used to, but vocabulary isn’t everything. Knowing words is important, but so is knowing how to use them. In the next few years, the rapid vocabulary growth that your baby’s been experiencing is going to start to slow down (as she comes to know a lot of the words she’ll use in her day-to-day life), but her language skills are going to keep growing dramatically as she starts to master the art of having a conversation.
Involved conversations may not be a huge part of your baby’s social life now - in fact, she is probably only just starting to get around to really interacting with other young children when she plays at all. As she interacts with adults, though, and as her peers’ social skills grow along with her own, her ability to hold a meaningful conversation is going to become more and more important - and you can help make sure she’s on the right track.
Getting the conversation started
Even though your baby may not quite understand the nuanced mechanics of back-and-forth conversation yet, the best way to learn is by doing, which makes now a great time for you and your baby to gab it up.
- Ask questions: ...and then wait for your baby to answer. If it takes her a while, that could just mean that she’s thinking her answers through, and practicing the back-and-forth of conversation will help her start to pick up the rhythm of it. Leaving space for her response also lets her know that you care about what she thinks and that you want to hear what she has to say.
- Practice scripts: One of the easiest ways for a toddler to have bad manners is for her to just never really learn them. A lot of the social instincts that adults have can feel really normal and basic, like things young children should just be able to pick up on by listening - and a lot of the time, they do. At other times, though, for one reason or another, toddlers may not get the memo on certain social scripts - you’ve probably talked to your baby about how “thank you” is responded to with “you’re welcome,” but if someone asks your baby how she is, a young child may not yet have gotten the memo that it’s kind to ask that person how they are too. Modeling these sort of niceties can go a long way in helping your little one be equally polite when chatting.
- Talk about turn-taking: ...and then apply that to conversation. If the trouble you and your baby are having with conversation isn’t getting her to talk, but rather it’s teaching her about when it can be time to quiet down for a few minutes, you can frame it in the same way that you talk about sharing a toy with her cousin at grandma’s or letting another child take a turn on the swing at the park.
- Encourage good conversation: You can do this by recognizing when your child does something well, whether that means letting your baby know how glad you are that she remembered to say “thank you” or letting her know how much you appreciated hearing her thoughts about the dogs you saw at the park.
As she grows, your baby is going to keep figuring out better ways to share all the thoughts floating around in that head of hers. Don’t be surprised if she’s the one starting a conversation with you next!
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